I’ve noticed, in my life, that many people seem to look for an excuse to dismiss those that they may not agree with. They find out they’re a republican or democrat or gay or religious or they take into account their skin color and are like, “Oh, well, of course they feel that way, they’re [fill in the blank].”
And it happens to those with mental illness, it’s happened to me on many occasions. Folks find out that you’re Bi-Polar and all of a sudden any time you show a strong emotion or you’re a little hyper or depressed it’s, “Oh, well, he’s bi-polar, that’s why he’s [acting, feeling, talking] like that.” It becomes easier to marginalize you. It’s why I get so fucking angry whenever the news covers some horrific act and when they start talking about the perpetrator they choose to harp on some “mental illness” they had, when that mental illness is, at best, correlative and not causative—aka: there were many other factors at play when they committed the act.
And that is why so many keep their mental illness to themselves and don’t talk about it. Talking about your mental illness is an extreme act of vulnerability; it’s duct taping a loaded gun to your forehead, handing it off to someone, and trusting them not to pull the trigger. Sadly, we live in world that is rife with cruelty, and a lot of times, that trigger gets pulled.
My encouragement to you is to find people you trust and talk to them. This isn’t something you can just hold inside. If there’s no one you trust, talk to a counselor. Your secrets are, by law, safe with them. I believe EVERYONE could benefit from therapy anyway.
That’s all for now.